Tuesday, April 25, 2023

HOW TO TRAIN CHILDREN TO BE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATORS 2

 I saw Girl A was sitting on the floor in front of the home corner. Her small frame was hunched over as she covered her face with her hands. Her shoulders were shaking with each sob that escaped her lips. I then approached her and asked what had happened. She told me that Girl B pushed her while she was trying to enter the home corner. While listening to Girl A's explanation, I saw Girl B was inside the home corner. I then called Girl B to come out of the home corner and asked her point of view about the situation. Girl B said, “I did not push her. I was playing inside the home corner “.

I instructed Girl B to ask Girl A if she was okay and to inquire about what had happened from her perspective. I then informed them that they could approach me in the kitchen if they needed my assistance. Afterward, I removed myself from the home corner area to allow them to resolve their issues independently.

A few minutes later, I inquired with both Girl B and Girl A to see if they were okay. They were playing together happily as if they had not experienced any issues before.

This is a perfect situation to teach children to solve their problems and communicate effectively and efficiently.

Steps to do:

1. Encouraged Girl B to ask Girl A 2 questions: ‘Are you okay?’ and ‘What happened?’. These neutral questions are asked in order to validate Girl A's emotions.

2. Remove yourself from the situation to enable the children to resolve their issues independently.

3. Inform the children of your location so they can approach you if they need assistance.

4. Check to see if the children are okay and have resolved their issues smoothly.


©Tina Adi 


Monday, April 25, 2022

HOW TO TRAIN CHILDREN TO BE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATORS 1

 A boy told me that instead of coming to the after-school care program and he wanted to go home.

I told him that he could discuss his idea of staying at home after school with his parents later. I also informed him that his parents had enrolled him to attend the after-school care program that afternoon. I encouraged him to choose any activities he liked at the after-school care. In the end, he agreed and enjoyed participating in outdoor activities.

A few days later, he attended the after-school care program again. Suddenly, he approached me and told me that a boy had hit him with an animal tail costume. I then simulated a conversation between two boys on how to communicate effectively.

Most importantly, I asked the boy who approached me first to explain what happened.

To make it easier, I used pseudonyms for their names. I called the boy who approached me first Hagen and the other boy who hit him Augustus.


This is an example of the dialogue:

I asked Hagen, “Can you please explain to us what happened?”

Hagen replied, “I walked to the sandpit and then Augustus hit me with his tail.”

I then asked Augustus, “Did you hit Hagen with an animal costume tail?”

Augustus answered, “I was playing with Hagen and didn't mean to hurt him.”

I confirmed with Augustus what he meant by saying, “You were trying to play with Hagen using the animal costume tail, weren't you? You did not mean to make him unhappy, right?”

Augustus nodded his head to show me that he agreed with what I said.

After that, I asked Hagen again, “How did you feel after hearing Augustus’s explanation?”

Hagen answered, “I didn't like being hit with a tail.”

I then encouraged Hagen to tell Augustus about his preference.

Hagen moved closer to Augustus and told him, “I didn't like being hit with a tail.”

Augustus replied to Hagen, “Okay.”

I asked Hagen, “What do you want Augustus to do?”

Hagen answered, “I want him to say sorry to me.”

Augustus chipped in and said, “Sorry.”

I asked Hagen, “Augustus said sorry just now. Is that okay?”

Hagen nodded his head and his facial expression indicated that he was pleased. He also smiled.

I told both Hagen and Augustus, “Everything is okay now. You guys can continue playing again.”

After that incident, Hagen never complained about not wanting to attend the after-school care program again. From that day forward, I frequently saw Hagen attended the after-school care program and he appeared happy.

©Tina Adi

Sunday, December 26, 2021

The Benefits of Cooking Class for School Aged Children

Based on my observations during my cooking classes, I realised that school aged children can benefit from learning life skills.

I heard that some cooking classes practice their cooking skills using water for learning measuring skills and sand for learning how to flip food in the fry pan.

However, children are highly motivated when they are using real ingredients for cooking class.

The benefits for school aged children participating in cooking class using real ingredients are:
  • Improve their Emotional (EQ) and Social Intelligence (SQ)
Children willingly participate enthusiastically and happily in mixing the ingredients or stirring the dough and other cooking tasks that they do during the cooking class activities. 
Children will learn best when they are happy. 

That is why this is the best time for educators to teach children about how to be kind to others, how to work as a team and how to be responsible. 
This intentional teaching is important to train children to be altruistic, to have empathy and compassion towards others.

Sometimes in the middle of the cooking process, there was a complaint from a child that he or she was not given an opportunity to stir the dough. 
The educator can use it as an opportunity to remind all students about working as a team.
The big advantage of a group cooking project is that the children learn to work as a part of a team. 
In today’s world, working as part of a team is highly valued.

Another example, a child might refuse to clean up after the cooking process ends. 
Educators always need to create a habit by stepping in and then inform all of the children using a friendly reminder about cleaning up after working.
The best way is from the beginning of the cooking activity, the educator explains to all children that they are expected to clean their cooking utensils after finishing their cooking project.

Why is it important to encourage children to clean their cooking utensils? It is important to teach children to be responsible and clean up after themselves.
In this cooking activity situation, everyone is responsible to clean up after they made a mess.
Some children might not know how to clean up their mess because they were not given those opportunities at home.

Why is it important to teach children about responsibility, being kind to others and working as a team? It is important because we are giving children opportunities to be able to do life skills and later on they can use those skills to contribute to their families and communities.

I think that all educators have an essential task in preparing children to be adults who are able to:
  1. treat others in a humane manner
  2. be independent
  3. be physically and emotionally healthy
  4. be able to have empathy towards others
  5. create a better place to live in the world

  • Improve their Logical Thinking Skills 
Cooking is definitely the best activity for you to use to improve your child’s learning experiences. This may result in better outcomes for your child in the areas of logical thinking skills as long as they love to join cooking activities. 
It is a magical experience for them to witness and to be involved in the cooking process from the beginning until the end and to see the result then taste the output from their learning experience straight away.
Cooking is an activity that requires children to contribute their efforts in order to achieve the concrete result. Let’s say, the children were given a project to produce chocolate muffins. By the end of the cooking process each child will get at least a chocolate muffin. A chocolate muffin is a concrete result for each child to touch, taste and eat. These processes are helping their brains to understand to get a certain output, they need to provide a certain number of inputs.
Those inputs involved a lot of numeracy and literacy skills to produce the chocolate muffins that they then eat. 
Numeracy and literacy skills are needed to get the recipe information regarding the quantities, types of ingredients, procedures, oven temperature and times.
The education research shows that if a child is happy while doing a task, knowledge retention levels will be higher.
Based on my observation after providing cooking activities at many schools for school aged students, they were overjoyed when they got the result, in this case was the chocolate muffin. 
They also spelled the cooking procedures to their parents when they were picked up. 
Sometimes some children did not want to go home without their chocolate muffins in their hands. I had to place the uncooked chocolate muffins in plastic containers so that they could bake the uncooked chocolate muffins at home in order to persuade them to go home. Some parents willingly waited with their children until they got the chocolate muffins in their hands.
My conclusion is educators need to provide cooking activities based on children’s favourite

  • Improve their Fine Motor Skills 
Any activities that require hand and eye coordination skills, such as: mixing, stirring, cleaning, pouring, holding and kneading are improving children’s fine motor skills.

  • Improve their Self Confidence
Children must be given a free hand in choosing the quantities and ingredients in the recipe during the cooking process.
They will take the ownership of their cooking process and the output anyway. When they have the output in their hands and are able to eat it, they know that they are capable of cooking something for themselves. 

Children are motivated to eat their cooking output, regardless of whether the taste is delicious or not.
If children cook it it and own the process it is like gold to them. 
This same feeling is what motivates the self actualization movement. 
You also see it when children do outdoor adventure activities when they own the process.

The key is that all educators always support each child’s choices when exploring and experimenting with the recipe during the cooking process.

  • Prevent Boredom and Improve their Ability to Entertain themselves

Ideally, each child should be able to work individually on their cooking project.

Based on my cooking class experience, children were able to focus on their own ingredients and driven to do all the cooking steps religiously. 
This concentration helped them to entertain themselves during the cooking process. Even children with behaviour problems were able to concentrate on their own project during the cooking process.

Please note that every child is given their own ingredients to complete their own project during the cooking process.

©Tina Adi


Saturday, May 8, 2021

A Multicultural Food Idea, about Indonesia: Prebiotic Stuffed Tofu


Prebiotic Stuffed Tofu

Cooking time: 45 minutes

Serves: 20

Note: you can add or change the vegetables based on your preference


Ingredients:

20 tofu (recommended to use the square shaped tofu)

• 1 cup of bean sprouts

• ½ cup of shredded carrot

• ½ cup of shredded cabbage

• 5 cloves of garlic (blend them finely)

• a tea spoon of salt

• a pinch of ground coriander

• a pinch of ground pepper

• 2 dessert spoons of rice flour

• 4 dessert spoons of tapioca flour

• 200 ml of water

• 2 tea spoons of chicken powder (optional)

• Extra virgin olive oil/ vegetable oil/ canola oil for frying the tofu


Filling:

• Combine the carrot, bean sprouts, cabbage, ¼ tea spoon of salt and a tea spoon of blended garlic. 

• Squeeze them to shrivel.


Batter:

• Mix the blended garlic, water, chicken powder, coriander, pepper, rice flour and tapioca flour

Note: add ¼ tea spoon of salt if you do not use the chicken powder.


Cooking method:

• Cut 3 sides of the tofu (square shaped tofu) and leave 1 side uncut.

• Stuff each tofu with the filing approximately 1 dessert spoon or less ( based on your preference)

• Dip each stuffed tofu into the batter.

• Fry the battered tofu using medium heat until golden brown.

• Serve the fried stuffed tofu with green/ red birds eye chillis.


Instagram url:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/COmXhohny_8/?igshid=1s6ixsexdxyqy

©Tina Adi






A Simple Ice Cream Making Activity Idea

 

Prebiotic Chocolate Ice Cream Making

Ingredients:
• 360 gr of Toblerone chocolate

• 200 ml of water

• a pinch of salt

• 1 dessert spoon of tapioca flour


Note: tapioca flour can be added based on your taste


Cooking time: 20 minutes


How to make:

• Boil the chocolate and then add the salt.

• Add the tapioca flour with a little bit of water (use room temperature water)

• Pour the tapioca liquid into the boiling chocolate.

• Stirr it evenly until the consistency of the chocolate liquid is thicker.

• Let it cool down.

• Put it in a container to freeze.

• Ready to be served.


Instagram url:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/COmE-K0nZFX/?igshid=1klovpbrsyp4s

©Tina Adi








Friday, December 25, 2020

How to Train Your Student to Boost Their Self Esteem

Look at this story.
 
Georgia was crying with tears coming down her cheeks.
I approached her and asked her what happened.
She told me that Amelia wanted her to apologise to Amelia three times.
Georgia apologised three times but Amelia rejected all her apologies.
 
I then told Georgia that she is a kind person because she apologised three times to Amelia. If Amelia rejected her apologies, the problem is not in her but in Amelia.
I also asked Georgia whether she agreed with my statement that she is a kind person.  
Georgia nodded her head and said yes in between of her sobbing.
 
I explained to Georgia that Amelia was rude to her by rejecting her apologies based on Amelia’s requests.
I said to Georgia, ”You do not deserve to be treated rudely by Amelia.”
 
I tapped my left shoulder using my right hand and then said, ”Georgia, you are a kind person.” After that I told Georgia to tap her shoulder and say to herself, ”Georgia, you are a kind person.”
Georgia tapped her shoulder and said, ”Georgia, you are a kind person.”
I also told Georgia to tap her shoulder and say to herself, ”Georgia, you do not deserve to be treated rudely by Amelia.”
Georgia did what I advised her to do.
I then asked Georgia, ”Do you feel better now?”
Georgia nodded her head and I saw that her sob went down a lot.
 
I then encouraged Georgia to pick a fun activity to do.
Georgia then told me that she wanted to build walls using plastic building toys.
Georgia’s facial expressions showed me that she completely forgot about her problem.
She played enthusiastically and smiling when I was building the walls together with her.

©Tina Adi

Monday, August 10, 2020

Teamwork

Today's thought is about 'Teamwork'.

We have to remember that we live on this earth together. It means that we are sharing this earth with others.

The word teamwork by itself contains two words which is team and work.

We need to question ourselves whether we are contributing our work to the team efforts or not.

As a leader, we need to be more careful to lead and direct our team. 

It is important that everyone in the team have a healthy body and mind.

Example:
Some people trip others up to get what they want.

Explanation:
That example shows that there is no teamwork.

Another example:
A leader deceives one or more people in the team to get a certain result.

Explanation:
A leader is the head of the team.
If the leader deceives the team, the leader is destroying the team spirit.

Self-reflection: 
What will we do as a team member or as the leader of a team to maintain the team spirit?

©Tina Adi